Mean Girls, Toxic Queens, Toxic Squads
Mean Girls, Toxic Queens, Toxic Squads
TOXIC QUEEN
Alright, so let's spill the tea on a "toxic queen," because girl, we gotta be real about it.
What's a toxic queen?
A toxic queen is like the drama llama of the squad. She's all about herself, and not in a good way. It's like she's got this toxic cloud following her, messing with everyone's vibes.
How to recognize her:
Look for the girl who's all about stirring drama. She's not lifting others up; instead, she's bringing them down. You'll catch her talking behind people's backs and spreading negativity like confetti.
Her behavior:
Toxic queens are all about power plays. They might act all sweet to your face but then pull some shady moves when you're not looking. They thrive on making others feel small and love being the center of attention, even if it means hurting someone else.
What to do about it:
Girl, distance yourself from that toxic cloud. Don't let her drama mess with your vibes. Surround yourself with positivity, build up your own queendom with supportive friends, and leave the toxic queen drama behind. Ain't nobody got time for that! 👑✌️💖
……..VS
Healthy Queen!!
The Queen is basically the girl who's, like, running the show. She's the one everyone notices, and her vibe is, you know, top-tier.
How to recognize her:
Easy peasy. The Queen stands out in a crowd. She's got this confidence that screams, "I know I'm awesome." Her style? Always on point. People naturally gravitate towards her, and she's like the leader of the squad.
Her behavior:
The Queen's got that chill yet in-charge aura. She knows how to handle stuff and doesn't let drama get to her. Even when things get messy, she keeps her cool. She's not into bringing others down, but she doesn't take any nonsense either.
What to do about it:
First things first, no need to hate on the Queen. Instead, learn from her vibes. Confidence? Check. Good style? Check. Positive vibes? Double-check. Surround yourself with awesome people, boost your own confidence, and don't be afraid to take charge of your own queendom. 👑
Postive Queens: Taylor Swift tk tk✨
LOVE BOMBING - the EWE, WAIT DITCH….
You know, sometimes in friend groups, I've noticed this not-so-great pattern, especially among us girls. It's like this plan to bring someone down, and it goes like this:
First, the mean girl starts by being super friendly, making the other girl feel really special with lunches and little gifts, just for her. This is the ‘love bombing’ stage. But then, for a day or two, the mean girl or queen kind of gives the other girl just a little bit of attention - like, saying just hi and being too busy for stuff. This is called ‘bread-crumbing’
Then, bam! The queen hits her target with loads of love, making her want more and more of it. It's like a cycle of love that keeps going. Love Bomb, Bread Crumbs, love Bomb, Bread Crumbs
The queen of course has her court, or closest friends, her "flying monkeys," who are always there for her. They're like the queen’s team, ready to do whatever the queen says.
When the target tries to speak up to the queen about this behavior, starts to do better in school or in a sport, or just gives up, the cycle is too tiring, the Queen or mean girl may, sadly, spread untrue stories. If anyone figures out it's coming from the queen or mean girl, she acts like she’s the one who's been hurt. "I never said those things! She slapped me and made fun of me. I'm the one being controlled." It's a bit like pretending to be the victim and shedding a few tears.
At some point, the queen may get her mom or an adult teacher for example involved, so that the target girl really knows her place and won’t complain.
By the end, the poor girl feels all mixed up and not sure about herself. She may even turn back to the queen for support and understanding, even conceding in some cases, ‘like you were right all along.” It's very mean, very toxic. Sherry, Portland, Oregon #queensmakegreatactresses #queenslie #cylceofabuse
How the “Toxic Queen Bullies”
1 - The ‘You’re Special, Wait Nevermind/ Basically the LOVE then DITCH
She may be your Bestie for a day or two or three. She’ll let you sit next to her, invite you to her house for lunch and sleep overs, but the next day, she’ll have found someone else and you’ll be wondering what happened. You know that feeling? At the pit of your stomach, something is not right. You feel like you did something wrong. But if you ask what happened, she’ll make you feel even worse: “You’re crazy, I’m not ignoring you.” She’ll make you question yourself and your own ideas of what is happening. There is something super crazy going on here because as soon as she pays attention to you again, you go rushing right back into her arms.
2 - Calling you names’
This is obvious: she will make you feel horrible by calling you, often under her breath so you’re not so sure she actually said it, things like ‘gross’/‘weird’/‘loser’/’etc’.
And you….Well I mean… it’s true, isn’t it? That’s what you might think after you hear these words repeatedly. What if I really am weird?
3 - The death stare also known as “stank eye’ or ‘rubbernecking’
“The badge you have officially become a target of a mean girl or one of her ladies in waiting: The death stare. You know that look. It’s full of mean words, even if none are spoken. That stare follows you. It is a glare, a snare, a snarl...also known as RUBBER NECKING… usually followed by a giggle, so for sure the mean girl and her court of perfect beings are targeting you.” You know that stare…it feels like: how dare you be alive and in my space. I love making fun of you.”
Qualities of a Toxic Friend #frenemy
Always Selfish: They only think about themselves and don't care about your feelings or needs.
Jealousy: They get upset when good things happen to you and may try to bring you down.
Not Supportive: They don't cheer you on or encourage you; instead, they might criticize or belittle you.
Gossipy: They spread rumors or talk behind your back, causing drama.
Control Freak: They want to control everything and may not let you make your own choices.
Not Apologetic: They never say sorry or take responsibility for hurting your feelings.
Fake Friend: They act differently when others are around and might not truly be your friend.
Always Negative: They focus on the bad things and bring a gloomy atmosphere.
Peer Pressure: They might try to make you do things you're not comfortable with.
Not Trustworthy: You can't rely on them to keep your secrets, and they may betray your trust.
Remember, a good friend supports and cares about you. If you notice these signs, it might be a good idea to talk to someone you trust, like a parent or teacher, about it.
